You Are The Company You Keep

Today I am going to talk about peer pressure and how the people around you influence you. Ever since I can remember my mom would always tell me, “You are the company you keep.”. I heard what she was saying, but I didn’t really notice or care until I was much older. I first noticed when I started to want different things and no agree with everyone else so much. In those moments I realized that if the people I’m sharing my time with aren’t on the same wavelength there’s going to be more hurdles because I’ll have to go back and forth more than I’d like defending my point of view. Which is why it is so easy to be “regular” because when everyone else is doing it you don’t feel some type of way following suit since you’re not alone. By the end of this post you’ll have another perspective to view from and maybe have some inspiration to prioritize.

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By definition peer pressure is the direct influence on people by peers, or the effect on an individual who gets encouraged to follow their peers by changing their attitudes,values or behaviors to conform to those of the influencing group or individual. With that being said the wrong peer pressure can hold you back from realizing your true potential. You must resist this type of pressure in order to increase your self-esteem and live your best life on your own terms. The following are ways to handle peer pressure:

  • Learn from your mistakes
    • Consider what could’ve been done different and apply it accordingly
  • Be mindful
    • Your thoughts & attitudes
  • Don’t mind the critics
    • Someone else’s insecurities are not your problem to solve
  • Be true to yourself
    • Know who you are and what you want for yourself
  • Have a wide range of friends
    • Old, young, rich, poor, religious and non
  • Be assertive
    • Make eye contact with peers and instead of asking what they want let them know what YOU want

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Now that you know moving forward please seek out people who affirm your values. If you don’t have any or know what that means scroll back to the top. Lastly if you’ve outgrown relationships let them go. #sorrynotsorry There’s plenty of people on earth that appreciate your ideas, lifestyle and choices without judging you.